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So, this is the kind of thing that happens to me and some of my friends..a lot! And we struggle with finding words to describe it. Here's a real-world example; let's pretend it happened to you for better understanding.

You just had a baby. You're in the hospital, and it's time to go home. Your mother comes to pick you up but forgot to bring the infant car seat, probably because you were born before car seats were invented, so it's understandable. However, when you state that the baby can't leave without a car seat, your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy, to which you reply, "Yes, Mother, I'm anal-retentive today...but not vaginally retentive, not anymore; see there!" And you point at your baby (the whole 3rd generation of your family).

So, what is a word (phrase or idiom) for what specifically just happened there to you?

My mother just _____ me.

In the 80s, we would've said dissed (as often as humanly possible), but I'm searching for a more specific word (phrase or idiom) to describe taking flak (of any kind) from people who (regardless of how well-intentioned) just can't handle details well. And I mean simple, everyday details; not rare, complicated ones.

Thank you. I hope this reworking is more straightforward (but not brash).

I am somewhat struggling to understand your question. It is not exactly clear what you are asking. It reads like you are asking for an idiom/phrase for the least popular "tasks" often put off to the end. "Tasks" themselves are often viewed as unpleasant from beginning to end. However, I came up with these few - the last of the lot, last but not least, and the last lap.

If you are referring to the unpleasant aspect of the "details" (deduced from your "noticeable frown" reference), then maybe it is because they understand that they are the bearers of "bad news" (deduced from your"messenger" reference). They are asking for further "delayed gratification". You will hear these ideas phrased in many forms like those below. I hope they get close to the "meat" of your question.

Sounds great, but wait, there's always the "last of the lot" left to go.

Sounds great, but wait, there's always the "last lap" yet to go.

Sounds great, but wait, here comes the "bad news".

Sounds great, but wait, they're saving the "best for last" (said
with sarcasm).

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/the+last+lap

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/last+but+not+least

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/the+last+of+the+lot

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/bad+news

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_gratification

The problem is I dont think theres an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being „fussy“ about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest „flak“ which would far too strong. Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were „dissed“ doesn`t sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That´s more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like „she gave me a little heat about it.“ But I wouldn’t say „heat“ alone, just „a little heat“. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.